"Just let me be" is a philosophy that screams for an existence - without being noticed or judged or applauded or criticized, to just be and not be bothered by worries of tasks or chores that don't interest you.
If being a control freak is largely considered a negative trait, then shouldn't being the one who readily gives up the control reins of chores that doesn't interest you be considered a positive trait? Isn't it a sign of maturity to say " I really don't care what the decision on this matter is.. I am ok either ways..people who seem to care about a side please take a call and just let me be "? I don't know about you people but I truly believe that it is a skill to distance yourself from taking sides or even being involved in matters that are just too trivial for you. What is a good, healthy normal trait in my opinion is apparently considered to be a negative trait. I tend to get perceived of as lazy , unwilling to accept responsibility, slacker and also as a stubborn person showing no inclination to adapt. Before you jump to conclusions about me, let me clarify that this philosophy applies only to some things in life and not to all. I do genuinely care about some chores and take full charge of them. The question really is -can people accept it when I honestly admit that I don't care enough about a particular task to make any decisions and would willingly give the reins of control to whoever is interested?
Yes you guessed right. This philosophy is stemming from a rant on the domestic front. I have never been a great homemaker and I find kitchen work to be really dull and never find enough enthusiasm to do the chore well. I scrape through the basics and have an understanding with my hubby who actually likes cooking. He is the driver in the kitchen and I am his "Sous-chef" - doing the chopping, clean up and the like. I only feel comfortable in the kitchen if he is around and I am assisting him while chit-chatting about random happenings in the world. When left alone in the kitchen or with anyone else, I instantly panic and do worse than I would normally with him by my side. The "Just let me be" philosophy stems from my personal experience when I visit my mom or my mom in law 's place for the weekend. They always seem to ask me for my opinion on matters related to the kitchen. I am always being quizzed on how much ginger do you have, how much milk do you have and the like. I agree that they are asking out of concern for lack of groceries at my place and to plan the purchases during the weekend while we are visiting them. I have no interest in matters related to the kitchen and never seem to be able to keep tabs. I somehow scrape through thanks to a husband who is very proactive and takes the call. It has taken a few years of marriage for my mom and my in laws to learn to direct questions regarding the kitchen to my husband rather than to me, although I am sure it is still difficult for them to have to make this switch. This works for me but I wish that there was no judgement or critique at me giving up the reins of control of the kitchen to a willing hubby.
With the typical stereotyping of roles in society I find it extremely hard to follow my philosophy. If not wanting to be involved itself is such a liberating thought, imagine if society in general warms up to this idea - 'just let me be' may be the best thing that ever happened to you!